Broken Covenant

broken covenant

I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman. (Job 31:1)

Read: Job 31:1 – 33:33, 2 Corinthians 3:1-18, Psalm 43:1-5, Proverbs 22:8-9

Relate: Ashley Madison. Four years ago, if somebody said those two words, I would have asked, “who’s that?” Since the list came at that time, I don’t think anybody can be asking that question anymore. If you were to google search the name shortly after the scandal broke, you would have had over one hundred seventy-five million hits. Just browsing through the top few pages, it looks like most seem to fall into three categories 1) Why nobody should be checking to see if their loved one is on the list 2) How evil the hackers were for breaching our privacy 3) What to do now that you’ve been outed for being on the list.

Ed Stetzer, a writer for Christianity Today and one of the best bloggers out there with regards to Christian leadership wrote an article: My Pastor Is On The Ashley Madison List. He states in it:

Based on my conversations with leaders from several denominations in the U.S. and Canada, I estimate that at least 400 church leaders will be resigning Sunday. This is a significant moment of embarrassment for the church—and it should be.

Going beyond Ashley Madison, in the United States alone, the porn industry nets more than thirteen billion a year. Add to this the fact that nine in ten viewers of pornography on the internet are viewing free material and the size of this global addiction is staggering. There have already been about 1.5 billion internet searches for pornography this year. Do you have a smartphone? One in five of all internet searches on our cell phones is for pornographic material.

The statistics could just keep coming. I could keep continuing to spew them out, but they leave a bad taste. The truth is, most if not all of you who are reading this have personal experiences that mean far more to you than any numbers. Many of you are reading this with guilt. Others are victims of broken relationships where porn addiction played a significant factor. A little more than a dozen years ago, I myself was caught viewing porn. It was probably one of the lowest points of my life. I thought my ministry and my future was forever shattered. Finding freedom and restoration was a long, hard, and very humbling road.


What accountability do you have? What filters are on your computer? Who, of the same sex, are you regularly meeting with that can hold your feet to the fire by asking the hard questions in a safe environment? If you cannot answer these questions, then you are begging the enemy to cripple and destroy your spiritual life. Broken covenants can be restored, but only when we are willing to come into the light. It is humbling. It is necessary.


Dear God,
Your grace is greater than all of my sin. As was said to David, You do not desire our destruction, rather You devise ways to restore us back to Yourself. Restore me. Forgive me. Give me the courage and the humility to do whatever needs to be done that we might be restored. Help me to truly understand that who I am in You is far more important than what I do for You. If my ability to work for You must be sacrificed so that I might become who I should… let it be.


5 thoughts on “Broken Covenant

  1. Thank you for this post. Families need to hear this. I have long been involved in the ministry of sexual addictions to families. I will join with you in prayer for them and for God’s mighty love to be revealed that they might be set free.

    blessings Tom

  2. BJ, I admire your courage to speak on this very difficult topic that plagues men and women alike. If I might share something very fitting on the temptation of sin (Origin;Satan in the Garden w/Eve) I read from Pastor John Hagee’s new book “The Three Heavens”, he says…”the threefold presentation of sin was established: sin is first a fascination, then it takes a form, and finally it becomes a fact.” It sure simplified a complex question of how to overcome shame and guilt. By understanding that we have the power over our thoughts and we can easily change or switch our fascination off temptation and sin by not allowing the fascination to steal our thought life. How encouraging to know that Satan is defeated each and every time we practice not allowing him to fascinate us with lust, lasciviousness and fornication ( outside of marriage). Counter the “fascination” of sin with the Fellowship of believers in Christ Jesus, let good thoughts FORM in your daily walk and this will bring the Fruit of the Holy Spirit to satisfy our mind, soul and spirit. Bless the Lord and He will in return- do the same to you.
    ~We are ALL sinners SAVED by the shedding of the Blood of Jesus, who was the only perfect one…the Son of God.~

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