Do not let your daughters and sons marry their sons and daughters, for they will lead your children away from me to worship other gods. Then the anger of the Lord will burn against you, and he will quickly destroy you. This is what you must do. You must break down their pagan altars and shatter their sacred pillars. Cut down their Asherah poles and burn their idols. For you are a holy people, who belong to the Lord your God. Of all the people on earth, the Lord your God has chosen you to be his own special treasure. (Deuteronomy 7:3-6)
Relate: I am completely and totally against mixed marriages. There is no doubt in my mind. There is no hesitation. Mixed marriages are wrong. They are evil. If some of you are offended by that… too bad. If some of you are about to unfollow me… feel free. There are certain things I would love to dialogue about. There are some things that are wide open for discussion and I am willing, even hoping to find a great argument that would help me change my mind. This is not one of those issues. It is set in stone. Mixed marriages are not of God. They are sin.
Do I have your attention yet? Now let me back up and share a couple things about myself. First of all, I grew up in a racially mixed home. I have two younger sisters and three younger brothers who are African-American. Living in New York that wasn’t much of a big deal for most but there were some. Even worse, the eyes that bugged out when our family headed south would very quickly make my blood boil. I will occasionally be in a conversation with someone where there ignorant racism sneaks out and I just shut down inside. I might not always say something about it, but let me say now that I am done. We can be acquaintances and I will still try to be nice to you but let me just say, we aren’t friends. Not a chance.
I haven’t dated much. I am pretty sure that I will be single for my entire life and I am fine with that, but not adamant about it. If God brings someone my way, great. If He does, I can pretty much guarantee she will not be white. I am simply not attracted to white girls. Over the past fifteen years the few people I have dated or been attracted to have been Philippina, or hispanic, or Egyptian, or Eritrean, or Moroccan… and that’s it.
React: What God was talking about in Deuteronomy has absolutely nothing to do with race. Don’t believe me? Look at Jesus’ lineage. Four women are mentioned. Tamar was probably Canaanite. Bathsheba was a widow whose first husband was a Hittite. Rahab was an expat who came back home only after her husband and boys died, and Ruth was a Moabite. Two possibly three of those four were not Hebrew. All of them have a multicultural background. All of them are in Jesus’ bloodline. What God was talking about was not about race. It was about spiritual purity.
If you are a Christian and you are dating or considering marrying someone who is not, stop. God makes it very clear what the marriage is about in His very next statement. Break down the altars, shatter their standing stones, cut down the Asherah poles, and burn the idols. There is no room for compromise on the issue of holiness. Godliness and evil cannot cohabitate. If you as a Christian are becoming emotionally intimate with an atheist, Buddhist, Muslim, Mormon, or anything else that does not make Jesus and His death and resurrection the central point of their life, stop. Get out. Run away. Mixed marriages are not of God.
I am sorry for the ways I have married You to the things of the world in my thoughts and time and words and life. I am sorry for the ways I have allowed the unholy idols within my culture to invade my thoughts and habits. Help me to be holy. Help me to be separate and pure. Help me to love everybody without any regard for creed or color but help me to hate and avoid sin in every of its insidious ways. Help me to be able to identify those things in my culture, either raised or adopted, that are not of You. I am Your child and Yours alone. Help me to keep that bloodline pure.