Again I say, don’t get involved in foolish, ignorant arguments that only start fights.
(2 Timothy 2:23)
Relate: I was tempted to pull out some quotes. I was really tempted. It would have been really easy. You see, at last check, I’ve got 970 facebook friends. I figure at least fifty of them have no business owning a facebook account. Why? Because they just can’t help but get involved in all kinds of foolish, ignorant arguments and facebook is a breeding ground for such nonsense. I’ve got fundamentalist friends who will post nonsense about how all pentecostals have bought into the kundalini spirit. I’ve got pentecostal friends talking about how all dispensationalists don’t know how to read their Bible. I’ve got republican friends trying to convince the world Obama is the antichrist and liberal friends who say all republicans are uncaring obstructionists. Guns kill people. No people kill people. If we all had guns the world would be a much safer place. No, if you took them all away it would. On and on, round and round, topic after topic, it never stops.
It was such a blessing for me to realize that I can remove people from my news feed. Even as I write this, I am making a mental list of people who I have done this to. God bless them and I love them to death, but my facebook feed is a much quieter civil place without them. Do you know anybody like that? If your friends were reading this, would you be the one that comes to mind for them?
React: I know that for a long time I would have been. That old dragon of always having to be right every now and then crops up again, but for the most part, by the grace of God, it remains slain in my life. I can still remember the very moment when God first began to really work on me in this issue. I was out at a coffee house with some friends in college when one young lady said to me, “You always have a response to everything, don’t you?” Of course I just looked right at her, sealed my lips, and smiled… just to prove her wrong.
That night God really began putting His finger on my heart. I was a part of multiple message boards all because I found the discussion “stimulating”. No. It was because I liked to argue. He began to remind me of so many times I’d hurt other people because I had to be right. He started showing me opportunities missed because of my displays of arrogance. Then I began to realize it wasn’t really arrogance but rather insecurity that led me to always argue. If I was truly secure in Him then I would display love, and peace, and self discipline, and kindness, and the need to prove myself would go away.
It has been a long road. I know I still have a long ways to go. Sometimes I still get sucked in to a facebook or real life debate. I think every now and then that isn’t really a bad thing as long as we know when to duck out and where to draw the line. But even then I’m pretty sure it is always a waste of time. I’m trying to learn to just state my peace and be done with it. Speak the truth in love, once, and then move on. Let God be God. He’s much better at that than I am.
God, if others think I’m wrong. That’s OK. Help me to concern myself less and less with their opinions. Yours is the only one that truly matters. Help me to find a healthy balance between proclaiming Your truth and getting bogged down in stupid arguments. Help me to have grace for those who hold viewpoints that are different from mine. Help me to show love without compromising truth. You’ve brought me a long way with this and for that I’m thankful and give You glory. Help me to keep moving in the right direction. Help people to know I’m a Christian by Your love displayed through me.